It’s a shame, though, that people are so used to judgement that when you are curious they become defensive.
Interesting point you made. They assume that you’re going to judge them. I can’t recall the number of times that I have to reassure people that I’m not going to judge them. I just want to know them better and also let them know that I will be here for them. It’s actually sad when you can’t find someone to confide in.